Posts Tagged ‘Happiness’

It’s Christmas Time Again
by Bob Lazzar-Atwood

Put your problems on probation          Image
Run your troubles off the track,
Throw your worries out the window
Get the monkeys off your back.
Silence all your inner critics
With your conscience make amends,
And allow yourself some happiness
It’s Christmas time again!

Call a truce with those who bother you
Let all the fighting cease,
Give your differences a breather
And declare a time of peace,
Don’t let angry feelings taint
The precious time you have to spend,
And allow yourself some happiness
It’s Christmas time again!

Like some cool refreshing water
Or a gentle summer breeze,
Like a fresh bouquet of flowers
Or the smell of autumn leaves,
It’s a banquet for the spirit
Filled with family, food and friends,
So allow yourself some happiness
It’s Christmas time again!



Promise Yourself       

The Optimist Creed

Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.  

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel like there is something in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living person you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, and too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

“You have the right to be you – the way you want to be.

You have the right to grow, to change, to become, to strive, to reach for any goal… to be limited only by your degree of talent and amount of effort.

You have the right to privacy; in marriage, family, or any relationship or group – the right to keep a part of your life secret, no matter how trivial or important, merely because you want it to be that way. You have the right to be alone part of each day, each week and each year to spend time with and on yourself.

You have the right to be loved and to love, to be accepted, cared for, and adored, and you have the right to fulfill that right.

You have the right to ask questions of anyone at any time in any matter that affects your life, so long as it is your business to do so; and to be listened to and taken seriously.

You have the right to self – respect and to do everything you need to do to increase your self esteem, so long as you hurt no one in doing so.

You have the right to be happy, to find something in the world that is meaningful and rewarding to you and that gives you a sense of completeness.

You have the right to be trusted and to trust and to be taken at your word. If you are wrong, you have the right to be given a chance to make good if possible.

You have the right to change your mind.

You have the right to be free as long as you act responsibly and are mindful of the rights of others and of those obligations that you entered into freely.

You have the right to win, to succeed, to compete, to make plans, to see those plans fulfilled… to become the best you can possibly become.

You have a right to boundaries and limits, a right to be intentional, a right to choice.”


There is a great quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson that says, “Nothing can bring you happiness but yourself.”  

We have all heard it before, “Happiness comes from within.” These words are true, but reality is most people endeavor to seek happiness outside of themselves. They look for some thing or some person to bring them happiness or wait for a climactic event or milestone to occur in their lives and then they hope that will bring them happiness.

People say, when I buy a house, when I get a new car, when I change jobs, when I fall in love, when I get married, when I get divorced, when I graduate, when I lose some weight, when I get my job promotion, then I will be happy!

But the truth be known, people will come and go, possessions will get old, marriages work, marriages fail, new jobs do not pan out, relationships change, fortunes are made and fortunes are lost. Everything changes. Life is fluid.  So, how do you find real happiness and how do you hold on to that happiness so it does not easily escape your every day living?

Real happiness comes to you by starting from where you are right at this moment in life. Not tomorrow, not some time “if” or “when” something happens. To be really happy you must take stock of what you already have, and truly appreciate what is right in front of you and learn to be grateful for everything you are and have. Why put your life on hold waiting for some one or some thing to make you whole or bring you happiness when all you have to do is open your eyes and look around you?  All we really have is today. Right now! Now you may choose to chase the proverbial pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, but life and happiness isn’t just about attaining something. It is all about enjoying the journey while reaching your destination. Learn how to detach yourself from the outcome and enjoy the ride to wherever it is you want to go or whatever it is you want to have. 

It only makes sense to figure out how to tap into your internal joy and not rely on external events to supply you with it. Don’t depend on something to happen to bring you happiness. Happiness, true happiness, is within you. Experiences in our lives change daily. Situations change, but you can live now. You can enjoy now. You can be happy now. It’s your choice!

“Happiness is not in our circumstance but in ourselves. It is not something we see, like a rainbow, or feel, like the heat of a fire. Happiness is something we are.”
John B. Sheerin

As you know there is much futility in making New Year’s resolutions since we abandon most of our well intended promises long before we make them a reality. But we still list them and out of tradition I suppose we will continue to do so every year.

So, here are some thoughts with a few Zig-isms from Zig Ziglar to consider as we begin 2010.

Change Your Thinking ~ As you well know and as you probably have experienced in your lifetime we are constantly barraged by negative thinkers all around us. In fact we have those same negative thoughts that permeate our minds on a daily basis. How many times were you told as a child that you cannot do something or you cannot achieve some goal? The problem we face is that when you are told over and over again that you cannot do something, you end up believing it. We have a battle within ourselves for the rest of our lives that we must “sell” ourselves on accomplishing anything of value within our lifetime. As Zig Ziglar says “Get rid of stinkin’ thinkin'” and “Give yourself a check-up…from the neck-up.”

Quit Whining And Be Thankful ~ Yes, we are trying to right the ship from a terrible economic situation and I am sure we are still very frustrated by the injustices of the banks, excessive CEO pay and bonuses, and unemployment, but at some point we must stop whining and make a concerted effort to make new changes in our lives that will drive us toward success. At some point we must start giving thanks for what we have and although you may feel like you are only “surviving,” we need to be thankful for what we do have, as there are many who are don’t have enough to survive. Start celebrating 2010 and look with optimism toward what this year can bring and what you can do in 2010 to make a difference. “Of all the ‘attitudes’ we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life changing.” Zig Ziglar.

Get Your Business On Track ~ It’s a great time to do a reality check on your business. You must look at what you’re creating/marketing/selling and make the corrections needed to fit this economy and the business need. Check to see if you and your staff are being as productive and efficient as possible and that you are anticipating targeted market changes and preparing for growth over the next year. Remember everybody sells….everybody! As Zig Ziglar says, “Your business is never really good or bad ‘out there.’ Your business is either good or bad right between your own two ears.”

Make A Difference ~ All of us are hard pressed to meet the needs of family and loved ones, but in 2010 you can make a huge difference by reaching out to those around you that are in need. It may be an employee, a co-worker, a service person you do business with, or a stranger. Donating time and money can make a real difference. It does not have to be a major campaign. It may just be an act of kindness that could change someone’s day. My wife and I are constantly looking for ways to make a difference or assist in some effort that can change someone’s life. As Zig Ziglar says,When we do more than we are paid to do, eventually we will be paid more for what we do.” Sometimes the “payment” is in terms of something more valuable than money.

Listen ~ There are times that people around you just need for you to listen to them. We are so used to tuning the world out and through that habit we tune out people who just need us to listen to them. Just let them vent, explain or share their problems. Be more aware this year to people around you and their needs. It could be your spouse, your children, friends, co-workers or employees. It is what sets us apart from all of God’s creation, the ability to listen, care and act upon needs that someone may have. Zig-ism, “Take time to be quiet.”

Enjoy Life ~ If you are fortunate to be employed you are probably finding that you are working more hours and wearing more hats at your company or workplace. We work too many hours and we do not have enough outlets or stress relievers to where we can enjoy life. Make a commitment today to have more fun this year and enjoy your family and friends so you can start living life to the fullest. Life is short enough, so live and enjoy and be thankful for every day. Another Zig-ism states, Most of us would be upset if we were accused of being silly. ‘Silly’ comes from the old English word ‘seilig’ and its literal definition is ‘to be blessed, happy, healthy and prosperous.’”

Get Healthy ~ I know we all make New Year’s resolutions to lose weight, stop smoking or get rid of whatever vices we use to help us cope, but then we get caught up in the same old routines and the great intentions we had at the beginning of the year flash by us as a whim and we dismiss them as a bad idea. Well, it is not a bad idea. It is time to make changes with our health. This entire country is plagued with unhealthy people. It is time if at all possible to take responsibility for your health. Build awareness. Visit your doctor if you are fortunate to have health care, read and update yourself on possible treatments either through medication or holistic methods. Above all strive to make yourself healthy so you can enjoy life with those who love you. According to ZigYou don’t drown by falling in water; you only drown if you stay there.” Make a change today.

Be Joyful And Happy ~ Life is a gift. Please do not abuse it. Strive to enjoy every day and be thankful. Make an effort in 2010 to find that silver lining and be joyful and happy in every situation. If you are starting this New Year and decade with negativity you will miss out on so many great things that will happen to you. Start smiling. It is infectious! Be helpful. When you see a person without a smile, give him yours.” Zig Ziglar

“You can get everything money will buy without a lick of character, but you can’t get any of the things money won’t buy- happiness, joy, peace of mind, winning relationships, etc., without character.”  Zig Ziglar