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All of us are capable of experiencing various emotions. We can be sad, depressed, confused, overjoyed and happy or we can be mad or angry, railing at the world. All of these emotions are natural and normal because we are humans. But we all express emotions differently and many of us are capable of expressing feelings effectively while others struggle daily.

I truly believe, unless a medical problem exists you can choose to control your emotions. Some people choose to be angry. Angry at everything and everybody. Our anger is communicated through words and actions. When our expression tends to cause more harm than good, then we have a problem with managing our anger. It is healthy to release your anger as it enables you to eventually rid yourself of it. But you must be careful how that anger is expressed outwardly. When you tend to be overwhelmed by your emotion, and express it destructively, then it is wise to seek anger management.

Anger management involves a clinical approach to addressing the problem. A psychiatrist, or whoever you choose to consult with, would first help you identify the triggers that tend to make you mad. And then analyze your reactions. Based on your responses, they will then come up with suggestions and concrete steps to improve your reaction guided by their expertise. Until you find what triggers outrage and anger, until you find what makes you mad at everyone and everything, you cannot find the peace or happiness that you seek. Remember, you may have to undergo some tests to accurately validate if you have a problem. Let the experts determine any treatment.

Some problems can be approached in a simpler fashion. You can learn to develop and maintain a more positive attitude. Encourage a healthy environment. Being angry is normal; we all have our moments, but you must channel that anger into a more constructive form of expression and communicate your feelings in a manner that is more relaxed. Talk it out. Pray about it. Release that pent-up anger through dialogue -– not argument — and then divert your attention to things that will not make you angry.

Getting angry is part of human nature. We all cry out against injustice, incessant greed, reckless drivers and more. There are so many reasons or excuses to get angry. You just have to make sure that you are able to handle your emotions whenever the situation calls for it. Anger management is controlling and dealing with those emotions that take us out of ourselves and causes harm and hurt to family, loved ones and co-workers. We must exert the effort to stay mentally fit and mature to address our situations effectively.

So, what can you do to end the anger?

1. Suppress negative thoughts. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on negative thoughts and play the scenario over and over in your head. It will drive you mad.

2. Be positive. Count your blessings and be positive. Dwell on the thoughts that will make you feel happy.

3. Learn to mediate. Mediation can be very productive for reducing or stopping your anger. Pause and breathe to calm yourself.

4. Get busy. Do not dwell on anger. Get busy with your body and mind on another task that will absorb that energy. Exercises, do aerobics or some type of mental challenge.

5. Walk away. You continue the anger when you maintain contact with that person or situation. Take a walk and cool off.

Anger is OK. Rage is not.

• Recognize your anger

• Identify the cause

• Resist jumping to conclusions

• Realize underlying causes

• Control the energy of your anger

“When angry, count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.”

Thomas Jefferson

Sarah is running in one of her ultra-marathons today in California. Keep her in your thoughts and tweet her good wishes @sarahstanley. Thanks.

Recently, emphasis has been placed on a serious epidemic concerning childhood obesity in the US. In the past 30 years the number of obese children in our nation has tripled. First Lady Michelle Obama brought the issue to the forefront of consumers’ minds when she recently launched her “Let’s Move” program. But long before Obama joined the ranks of those encouraging children to shape up, Sarah Stanley had devoted her life to fitness, with a passion to teach young people to get active. Through her lifestyle as an endurance athlete and through speaking engagements, Stanley endeavors every day to reach out to young people to show them how important fitness is so they can lead healthy and productive lives.

10 Questions – Sarah Stanley

1.    What’s your favorite part of a typical day?

My favorite part of my day is two-fold. First, interacting with my fan base and finding out what they are up too and, how their day is going. The second favorite part of my day is training. I love to sweat. I love to push my body. I enjoy running on the trails and enjoying nature. When I train it gives me time to reflect on how I can use my life to have a positive impact on others. I also love the way I feel after I workout. I think I have experienced a “runner’s high” a few times. I want to share this passion with everyone!

2.    What part of your day would you gladly give up?

How great would it be not to worry about sponsorships!

3.    Tell me about your cause. Share your passion.

My life mission statement is: “How can I be a blessing to someone, somehow, some way, somewhere?” This is how I run my life. No pun intended.  I’m an endurance athlete (mainly ultra running). I am also a humanitarian. What does this mean? To me it means doing something I am passionate about and helping others by it. I use my running as the platform to encourage, inspire and motivate young and old alike. I breathe, sweat, and bleed (hey, running ultra’s will do it to ya) health, fitness but most of all, relationships with people. I count it an honor to share my life, my passion of athletics and a healthy life style and most of all my love of running. And let’s not forget a healthy side of making people laugh and smile!

Most recently I launched the Run Ride Inspire project. If you have not heard, the number 1 cause of death in the next 9 years in the USA will be obesity. This breaks my heart. So given my history of helping others and living a healthy, active life I thought it would be a great platform to be a real, positive role model and show the next generation (and the current) what it means to walk the talk, or should I say run/ride the talk? I will be doing a combination of running and cycling 50 miles. In 50 states. Make sure you visit and become involved!

4.    If you could change anything you have done in your cause, what would it be?

To be a smarter athlete. I push myself almost too much. I need to learn that it’s okay to rest and recover. Seriously.

5.    What keeps you up at night?

Figuring out how I’m going to get everything done.

6.    Who gives you the best advice about your cause?

My friend Brian ( a small business owner & entrepreneur). He always tells me to keep climbing that mountain and make goals. Don’t look too far into the future. Focus on today. Also, another person who inspires me is my aunt. Her encouragement, love and pep talks motivate me to do anything!

7.    What professional accomplishment are you most proud of?

I am most proud of facing my fear of water and learning how to swim at the age of 26. When I was a kid I had some friends drown. Let’s just say it didn’t motivate me to jump in the water! So my goal in 2006 was to do a triathlon. Well, I kind of needed to know how to float! And I did. I went from learning how to float to jumping into 18 feet of water in 6 weeks. And a sprint triathlon 6 weeks later.

My second thing I am most proud of is running and finishing my first 100 mile ultra marathon. Yes, running 100 miles. In. A. Row. No stopping (except for aid stations). No sleeping. No showers. Just me and the trail. Well, and a bobcat ( I didn’t see it, but another runner told me about it. Thank God!) I finished in 24 hours, 58 minutes, 8/21 women. I ran this on the my 30th birthday. Why? To show the world that you can celebrate positively. I think I made my statement.

8.    What would you like to see happen with your cause?

1. To lower the current obesity statistics.

2. To have people embrace my life mission statement for themselves.

3. To get active!

9.    Share a triumphant outcome to something you have faced in your life.

I started running when I was 14 to deal with a stressful childhood. Instead of turning to drugs or alcohol I rolled out of bed at 4:30am weekday mornings and ran. It was a time where I could just be present. Enjoy the darkness. Watch the sun rise. And face my day ahead. Today I look back at that moment and I’m thankful that I was able to have the where-with-all to turn a negative into a positive. Running saved my life.

10.  If you were in charge of everything in the world for a day, what’s the first change you would make?

No media, no TV, no frivolous reality TV shows. Instead, have each person help someone else and embrace this: “More compassion, less complaining. More service to others, less things. More caring, less judgement.”

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Photo credits:

The “Nike black shirt” photo and the “track” photo are by Doug Kean
The “orange vest” head shot and “orange track” photo are by Matthew Lofton