Posts Tagged ‘Being positive’

Poet: Unknown

People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.
Love them anyway!

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway!

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway!

The good you do today, will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway!

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway!

The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest people with the smallest minds;
Think big anyway!

People favor underdogs, but follow only top dogs.
Fight for underdogs anyway!

What you spend years building up may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway!

People really need help, but will attack you if you help them.
Help them anyway!

Give the world the best you have and it may kick you in the teeth.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway!

New Time
by Marvin Phythian
The time is new so let’s begin,                            Image
A time for challenges, a time to win,
So let’s ignore the doom and gloom,
And tell ourselves it’s time to bloom.
Time to develop, time to grow,
A time for new records so don’t be slow,
A time to work hard, a time to be kind.
And for your reward, peace of mind.
Think not what your country is doing for you,
But do it yourself,  see what you can do.
A time to swim and not to sink,
A time to be strong and not to shrink,
And  when your progress is bluntly checked,
It’s time to be patient,  maintain respect.
For family, friends, your planet and nation,
It’s time for yourself so man your station.
By helping ourselves we help each other.
Take action yourself, resist the big brother.
Everyone can achieve and put something back.
But time is so short so let’s get on track.
Reinvent yourself; move on from the past,
The sands of time are moving fast,
So write down your aims, your targets and goals,
Lets’ save ourselves, let’s save our souls.
It’s time to start so in yourself invest.
It’s time for you to be your best.

The one thing we can count on in life is change. We usually have an aversion to, and even a fear of, change. Sometimes change is inevitable. Sometimes change is needed and should be accepted. Why then do we resist it so much?  

I think the answer lies in control. We have difficulty with change because we perceive it to be a loss of control. Change is not bad and at times is a source of rejuvenation. It provides zest in our lives. It challenges what it touches, forcing adaptation and improvement. It realigns you with your values.

How then do we accept change and incorporate it into our life so that it is acceptable?

1. Recognize
2. Reflect
3. Release
4. Replace
5. Reprogram
6. Re-Integration

First, recognize that change is necessary. It may manifest itself as discomfort, either physical or emotional. You may notice tension or stress, or disrupted sleep. Your appetite may change or you may become impatient, frustrated or discontent.  This lets you know that something must change in your life. The question is then asked, “What must change?”

This is a good time to reflect on your life. What is the source of the discomfort or stress? You must discover what is affecting you emotionally and physically in a negative way. Upon reflection you must remind yourself of your purpose. Discover what is not in agreement with your values or what contradicts or inhibits your growth and pursuit of your purpose.

After you have identified what stresses you or inhibits your life, release it. You must let go of that which is holding you back. When you release this frustration and stress you will notice a change and a difference within you, a spaciousness of freedom.

Now, this sense of spaciousness may in fact begin to feel like an emptiness that needs to be filled. You have the option to replace the negative which wasn’t serving you, with a positive: something that is more aligned with your core values. You must make the choice to be positive and proactive in filling that emptiness.

Once the detrimental aspect has been replaced with something positive, reprogramming is necessary. You must learn how to incorporate this new dynamic into your life. You have the opportunity now to reprogram the way you think and live more positively, relieving your life from stress and frustration you have been dealing with. Once completed you will experience more ease, more fulfillment and happiness in your life.

Over time and with application you will discover that reprogramming your thoughts, feelings and actions will bring you to a place of re-integration. The positive changes you have made will be seamlessly incorporated into other aspects of your life. Change is often a necessity in our lives and should not be perceived as bad. We resist what we do not understand and we deflect change because we have fear of what may happen. But please realize that change can be good. Staying proactive and allowing change when needed is not losing control. It allows you to stay in control of your life so that you can be happy, healthy and wise, pursuing new levels of freedom in finding your purpose for living.  

“Change is in the air. This change reminds us that we are made and beautifully sculpted by the same power that is orchestrating this transition. Let this be the season you embrace and align your self with this change.”

Steve Maraboli

Every day of our life we are faced with negative talk and negative thinking. Have you also noticed that negative language and negative self-talk is so disempowering?

Only 10% of our mind is conscious while 90% is unconscious. The conscious mind is our rational, logical and analytical mind and is said to hold our temporary memory. But our unconscious mind on the other hand is irrational and it is where we form our beliefs and habits. We store everything we have ever learned in our unconscious mind. It is also the compartment of our emotions. All behavior is considered unconscious and all learning and change happens at the unconscious level. Your unconscious mind is just like a robot and it takes all the commands you direct it to. Your unconscious mind is doing the best job it can with the directions you are providing it. So say it the way you want it. Direct your thoughts. Pay attention to what you are saying and thinking and therefore communicating to your unconscious mind. Another key fact about the unconscious mind is that it does not process negatives. Therefore it does not hear or process the word “not.” Consider this example. You say to a 4-year-old child, “don’t touch that stove, it’s hot.” What does the 4-year-old do? He or she is curious and reaches to touch the hot stove. Why? Because we just put that idea in the 4-year-old’s mind. So, think of your unconscious mind like that of a child. In order to have your child obey your command you have to say something like “leave that alone.” It’s the same message, but yields two very different results.

Do you ever listen to the language people are using? When you listen very carefully, the language that people use tells us so much about themselves and what is going on in their heads. You may have heard some of these negative phrases. “Work is driving me crazy.” “Get off my back.”  “He is a pain in the neck.” “You’re killing me.” “You’re giving me a headache.” “You will never amount to anything.” Sound familiar? You get what you think about,  so say it the way you want it. Listen very carefully and pay close attention to the words you are using. You must realize the message you are sharing with your children, family, friends and co-workers. What are you really telling your unconscious mind? Say it, the way you want it.

Practice turning negative, disempowering language into positive, empowering language: When someone asks you “how are you today,” instead of saying “not bad,” say “fantastic” or “unbelievable.” You will immediately begin to feel great, even if you weren’t feeling well to start with. When someone says “thanks,” instead of saying “no problem” say “you are welcome” or “anytime.”

Think about this:

~ Think and then verbalize what you want your results to be. Your words are like gifts that you give out and take in.

~ When you catch yourself saying something negative, replace it immediately with something more positive. For example. “I feel sick today” is replaced with “I’d like to feel better.”

~ Eliminate the words “should” and “have to” from your self-talk. These words imply obligation and will build resentment over time.

~ Avoid using the word “try” which implies potential failure.

~ It takes time to establish a habit, so practice positive self-talk every day.

~ Remember to say it the way you want it!

“We all need a daily check up from the neck up to avoid stinkin ‘thinkin’ which ultimately leads to hardening of the attitudes.”  Zig Ziglar