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To See Me

Posted: January 14, 2015 by kibler in Uncategorized
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For so long…looking into the mirror
I saw only a reflection of an image,
a stranger looking back at me.

When looking into my eyes,
I saw only an emptiness, a void.

Woman Looking at ReflectionBeneath those eyes were many fears,
fears of pain,
fears of sorrow,
feelings of no hope.

How could I not know this face before me,
as I stood looking at the image in the mirror?

Where was this person that I used to be,
why couldn’t I see?

Turning again looking into the mirror,
I saw my life,
one that had gone out
like a candle being extinguished.

All my pride,
my joy,
my hopes,
my desires,
my passion,
all was gone.

What reflected back from that mirror
was a stranger looking back at me.

Standing there feeling so alone,
lost and confused,
the fear set in, where was this person
I called ME?

Walking away from that image,
never wanting to look again,
my life continued on.

Over time I found myself looking in
that mirror again.
Yet this time when I looked,
what reflected back to me
was a face, my face,
my eyes filled with hope,
a burning love,
a pride of being me,
a passion for living.
No longer a darkness did I see,
for out of my eyes a light was shining,
a reflection of ME!

For you see
I was no longer a stranger
to Me!

Yet there still is that pain deep within,
that pain has taken on
a new meaning in my life.

Through the tears
and
countless hours of feeling alone,
those hours I screamed out and no one heard
slowly through that pain and confusion
emerged the real me.

It took all those disappointments and life hurts
to make me stop
and look at the real Me!!

No longer am I just an image in a mirror
I am a reflection of my life,
those hurts,
those joys,
that hope,
that burning passion,
that endless love.

I see now the true image
the image of Me!

~Deb Montgomery

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We live in a fast-paced, relentless world. People just have too much in their hands and they lose sight of some of those things which are somewhat important to their well-being. As a matter of fact, stress management tips are fast becoming something we constantly look for when we do get some time. That is because most of us simply do not have the luxury of time we need in managing pressure like we should. So we all need to learn how to relieve stress at least just a little bit better. In learning how to relieve being stressed, first, you have to analyze or examine your lifestyle.

Determine if there are some things that you are doing which could be counterproductive to what you want to achieve in your life. In order to do this, you can take a breather and take a look at all that is taking place in your daily activities. Do you often find yourself worrying and stressing about things that actually do not give any benefit to your life? Or do you often work very long hours in the office? Examine your life and activities first for your initial steps on how to relieve stress. After examination, you can then consider the physical effects of being stressed.

Do you always find yourself forgetting some things? Do you often find yourself skipping your meals, eating junk food rather than healthy food and not getting adequate exercise? Or worse, no exercise at all? Do you already possess some signs of aging although you are much so young to have them? These are just some of the physical signs or effects of being stressed. To learn more on how to relieve stressful moments, you need to take note on what it is that you are doing to your body.

3 Quick Methods to Relieve Stress:

1. Say no to only one thing once a week. Try not to volunteer for something and tell those abusing you or taking advantage of your time to take a hike. If you think you have simply too much of anything which you can’t take, just say no. You have to worry about yourself first.

2. Allot even just an hour for a day or 4 hours twice a week for time or moment just for you. During this period, make this your relaxing time. Do not do some work for your job. Or do not work around your house or spend time thinking or worrying—just relax.

3. Rejuvenate Your Spirit. It always helps to take a break once in a while. The most important part of this is knowing when and how to do this. And while there are different aids to help you learn this, implementing it can only come from an experiential realization that there is only so much stress your body can take.

These stress management hints are sure effective ways for you to start taking care of yourself and well-being. Just by looking at those harmful effects of being stressed and you’re sure to see why knowing and implementing how to relieve stress is a very crucial component of your health and wellness. Find an outlet to just dwell, think and be grateful. Exercise and look into food supplements that will make a difference in your body and mind and relieve the stress so you can lead a healthy, productive life.

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Fear can be a great motivator in your life as well as a great equalizer. But fear can limit, fear can kill dreams and fear can cut your life short from reaching your most cherished goals.

Fear is a sense of loss projected into the future. And that fear comes into play when you have something to risk. So what are you risking?

It all comes down to ownership. In our modern society we make a big deal about ownership. But what does ownership mean?  In reality we are only caretakers and temporary ones at that. Our bodies, relationships, environment, homes and a host of objects we like to call “possessions” are ours on a borrowed basis. When we lay claim to any object, defining it as ours, we fall prey to ownership ego.

Once that thirst grips us, we risk becoming lost and wander aimlessly when, in truth, we have nothing to lose. By attaching ourselves to things, people, or ideas about ourselves and reality, we set the conditions for fear. Many of us are guilty of this especially with loved ones.

Ultimate fear is a fear of loss of something we believe we own. But remember, nothing is permanent. Things, attributes or relationships are all temporary and fleeting. So then, fear comes from our clinging to the way things are; really the way things were.

Ultimately, this is the fear of change. Change can potentially require you to lose what you have grown accustomed to, what you think is yours. And many people have experienced that in their work and personal lives. Jobs that we cherished or took for granted were lost in this economic downturn and many people have had difficulty righting the ship. People have lost their homes to foreclosure and most everyone has had some significant financial losses. We become paralyzed and fear keeps us from moving forward and risk taking a chance to believe again; to try again. We lose the desire to be challenged and stop doing what we used to do because we fear we will lose more. So what happens? We do nothing at all!

Losing your job or losing your home is devastating. Downsizing is painful and sometimes humiliating but those changes do not define you as a person. They are setbacks or problems you deal with so you can get back to living.

To overcome the ultimate fear you must choose. You can detach yourself from everything and everyone – a strategy countless lonely, isolated people live by. Or you can accept that nothing is permanent in this physical reality, everything is transitory. From this state of mind you come to accept that though you might suffer the anguish of a temporary loss you remain ever expectant and welcome new joyful encounters.

And old preacher once told me when I was complaining to him about my problems  looking for consolation. He told me emphatically;  “I should be thankful for problems. Because problems let you know you are alive. Dead people do not have problems.”

Remember, life is an adventure. It need not be filled with fear. Choose to live free from fear and embrace the new adventures life brings.

“Overcoming fear and worry can be accomplished by living a day at a time or even a moment at a time. Your worries will be cut down to nothing.”

Dr. Robert Anthony