Archive for January, 2011

There is a great quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson that says, “Nothing can bring you happiness but yourself.”  

We have all heard it before, “Happiness comes from within.” These words are true, but reality is most people endeavor to seek happiness outside of themselves. They look for some thing or some person to bring them happiness or wait for a climactic event or milestone to occur in their lives and then they hope that will bring them happiness.

People say, when I buy a house, when I get a new car, when I change jobs, when I fall in love, when I get married, when I get divorced, when I graduate, when I lose some weight, when I get my job promotion, then I will be happy!

But the truth be known, people will come and go, possessions will get old, marriages work, marriages fail, new jobs do not pan out, relationships change, fortunes are made and fortunes are lost. Everything changes. Life is fluid.  So, how do you find real happiness and how do you hold on to that happiness so it does not easily escape your every day living?

Real happiness comes to you by starting from where you are right at this moment in life. Not tomorrow, not some time “if” or “when” something happens. To be really happy you must take stock of what you already have, and truly appreciate what is right in front of you and learn to be grateful for everything you are and have. Why put your life on hold waiting for some one or some thing to make you whole or bring you happiness when all you have to do is open your eyes and look around you?  All we really have is today. Right now! Now you may choose to chase the proverbial pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, but life and happiness isn’t just about attaining something. It is all about enjoying the journey while reaching your destination. Learn how to detach yourself from the outcome and enjoy the ride to wherever it is you want to go or whatever it is you want to have. 

It only makes sense to figure out how to tap into your internal joy and not rely on external events to supply you with it. Don’t depend on something to happen to bring you happiness. Happiness, true happiness, is within you. Experiences in our lives change daily. Situations change, but you can live now. You can enjoy now. You can be happy now. It’s your choice!

“Happiness is not in our circumstance but in ourselves. It is not something we see, like a rainbow, or feel, like the heat of a fire. Happiness is something we are.”
John B. Sheerin

In order to begin 2011 successfully and to excel in your life, you need to start setting smart goals. In short you must have a plan; a decisive strategy of reaching your goals. The strategy must be comprehensive and must provide proper guidance in all situations so that you always know what to do, no matter what.  

When setting smart goals, you must ensure that they are worth the effort. Consider the specific advantages that you will enjoy if you succeed and the consequences if the choices you make are wrong. This is what should inspire you to right away begin setting smart goals which are also achievable. This way you will know what you want and where you want to be this year and not wait until the end of 2011 looking back with regrets.

Look at your current position and then see where you want to be in future. Ask yourself the question; is there anything that can hinder me from being successful? This way you are creating the right mentality to tackle challenges. Then set smart goals and always remember to review them periodically. Do not wait until it is too late to achieve your goal for 2011 or accomplish what YOU need to excel in your life.

Remember, you will encounter difficulties and road blocks as you maneuver throughout the year. Whenever those problematic situations rise up in life, always consider what motivated you in the first place. Do not lose sight of your vision for what you imagine for yourself. This will help raise your spirits to soar above your predicaments, thus the importance of setting smart goals. This is very necessary because challenges tend to make one lose focus and procrastinate. But, if you are determined to change your situation, and rise above the dust and make your goals a reality you must reinforce your mind and focus on what you really want in your life. Do not let anyone or anything detour you. 

The level of commitment to a particular cause is a matter of what is important to you and what is not. If something really matters to you then you will take it seriously and not let that desire or goal escape your reach. You must not yield to negative influence on your vision and plans. Connect with like minded people that are supportive and are willing to help you reach your goal as they too achieve their own. In addition, make a practice of reminding yourself about your goals and what they mean to you. When you value your goals and understand their importance to you, you will surely excel.

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.”

Henry Ford