Every day of our life we are faced with negative talk and negative thinking. Have you also noticed that negative language and negative self-talk is so disempowering?
Only 10% of our mind is conscious while 90% is unconscious. The conscious mind is our rational, logical and analytical mind and is said to hold our temporary memory. But our unconscious mind on the other hand is irrational and it is where we form our beliefs and habits. We store everything we have ever learned in our unconscious mind. It is also the compartment of our emotions. All behavior is considered unconscious and all learning and change happens at the unconscious level. Your unconscious mind is just like a robot and it takes all the commands you direct it to. Your unconscious mind is doing the best job it can with the directions you are providing it. So say it the way you want it. Direct your thoughts. Pay attention to what you are saying and thinking and therefore communicating to your unconscious mind. Another key fact about the unconscious mind is that it does not process negatives. Therefore it does not hear or process the word “not.” Consider this example. You say to a 4-year-old child, “don’t touch that stove, it’s hot.” What does the 4-year-old do? He or she is curious and reaches to touch the hot stove. Why? Because we just put that idea in the 4-year-old’s mind. So, think of your unconscious mind like that of a child. In order to have your child obey your command you have to say something like “leave that alone.” It’s the same message, but yields two very different results.
Do you ever listen to the language people are using? When you listen very carefully, the language that people use tells us so much about themselves and what is going on in their heads. You may have heard some of these negative phrases. “Work is driving me crazy.” “Get off my back.” “He is a pain in the neck.” “You’re killing me.” “You’re giving me a headache.” “You will never amount to anything.” Sound familiar? You get what you think about, so say it the way you want it. Listen very carefully and pay close attention to the words you are using. You must realize the message you are sharing with your children, family, friends and co-workers. What are you really telling your unconscious mind? Say it, the way you want it.
Practice turning negative, disempowering language into positive, empowering language: When someone asks you “how are you today,” instead of saying “not bad,” say “fantastic” or “unbelievable.” You will immediately begin to feel great, even if you weren’t feeling well to start with. When someone says “thanks,” instead of saying “no problem” say “you are welcome” or “anytime.”
Think about this:
~ Think and then verbalize what you want your results to be. Your words are like gifts that you give out and take in.
~ When you catch yourself saying something negative, replace it immediately with something more positive. For example. “I feel sick today” is replaced with “I’d like to feel better.”
~ Eliminate the words “should” and “have to” from your self-talk. These words imply obligation and will build resentment over time.
~ Avoid using the word “try” which implies potential failure.
~ It takes time to establish a habit, so practice positive self-talk every day.
~ Remember to say it the way you want it!
“We all need a daily check up from the neck up to avoid stinkin ‘thinkin’ which ultimately leads to hardening of the attitudes.” Zig Ziglar